So this is the end of The First of Seven. A year of blogging about my own growth here. Sharing some of the things I was learning with you.
Now it’s moving over to www.simonlawry.com. I’m switching over as I make a huge transition in my life. It’s the right time. Please continue to follow what I write there!
Thank you so much for reading and commenting.
Simon
So my biggest revelation in the last two weeks is a sort of obvious one. Never the less it is very important for me, to get past where I am at the moment. That realisation was that feelings are supposed to be felt. Generally, I have an intellectual response to situations where I should feel feelings. Like, because that happened to me I should be sad. Or angry etc. Rather than feeling something inside me and going, wow ok that is anger, I’m pissed.
There is a gate swinging in the wind on it’s hinges in front of me. It leads to a wild, scary, dark, dangerous, landscape. It is ravaged by cutting winds, and icy rain. It harbours all sorts of creatures. Monsters and demons. I look down and my feet, and imagine that they are hairy as, and that I am Frodo Baggins standing on the edge of Mordor. I feel what he must have felt. That there is no choice but to face whatever comes in the darkness. To get to Mount Doom, and cast the ring in, to free the land from the power of darkness.
About a month ago I was on the phone to a relatively new friend, who I’d come to know through a mutual friend. Near the end of the conversation I let a tiny comment slip about something that I couldn’t tell them any more about. I wasn’t giving my full attention to the conversation, and so I slipped up. I couldn’t do anything about it, as I had said it, and couldn’t take it back, but couldn’t say anything more. Basically I screwed up. The conversation sorta stalled, and the other person made a swift departure. I felt like a tool, on one side for letting something slip, but on the other side I was glad I stayed in integrity and didn’t say anything more.
I haven’t talked about this in detail on this blog. I’m going to now, because I believe in it so strongly. Most of you would know that I have done some workshops with Real Education. You would also know I’m fairly tight lipped about what happens at the workshops. This is because it is something I would love every single one of you to experience it yourselves, and there is no way I am going to ruin the experience for anyone. I ask you to suspend your judgement of Real and what they do while you read this.
I could go on and on about what the workshops I have done, have done for me, but I won’t. All I will say is that they have changed my life, and accelerated my growth immensely.
For the record and to make this very clear, I do not benefit in any way from writing this post. I have not been asked to do it, nor to I receive any money or discounts for doing it. Real Education don’t even know I’m writing this.
I am writing this to let you know that the opportunity is there to have your own experience up the mountain. Real Woman 1 is on on the 18th – 21st of Feb, and Real Man 1 is on on the 25th – 28th of March. It is unforgettable, and life changing. I have a number of vouchers available that bring the cost down.
On the matter of cost. Yes, it is very expensive. Is it worth it? Totally. There is not a second that I have regretted any of the money that I have spent on this work.
So if you would like to know more, get in touch with me at simonlawry@gmail.com. You can ask questions about my experience, or if you would like to speak to other people, or a woman about there experiences, we can make that happen easily.
Check out Real Education online here.
Also, if you want a window into some of the work that Real does, they are holding a free seminar on the 13th and 14th of March called Real Secrets to Success. My understanding is that it is a bit of an overview of two of the seminars, Real Life Design, and Real Relationships. I have been given an invitation to distribute to you all. I don’t believe this has been made publicly available yet. You can download the invitation here: Real Secrets To Success. It’s a way to get a very good insight into the seminars that Real run. Note: this is very different from Real Man/Woman.
The other option is to come along to a Real Teens Logistic training session. Real Teens is the a not-fot-profit spun out of Real Education, and we run workshops for teenagers. This is how I first got exposed to real. The training sessions we run are a great opportunity to meet cool people, and have some fun. I believe the first session is free, which is the 27th of Feb, but after that I think there will be $5, which goes towards materials for the sessions (I’m not 100% sure on this, so no guarantees). Again, full disclosure: I’m on the Real Teens Foundation committee, I am helping organise and run the Logistics training sessions, and I am doing the facilitator training program offered by Real Teens this year.
It’s a fantastic way to learn about yourself, have some fun, and being involved in the workshop, and being in service to teenagers, is one of the most rewarding experiences I have ever had. Get in touch if you want more info on the Real Teens training.
So. I ask you to consider Real in some way. I made my journey alone for far too long. To have an amazing group of people to share the journey with you is fantasmic. Again, any questions, feel free to get in touch. Once you have considered this, you can turn your judgement back.
Okies! Hope everyone is rocking the new year, and is having a great time!
Much love to all!
S.
This is a super quick post to get some of my recent realisations down on the white.
1. I don’t know what I want.
2. Because I don’t know what I want, I commit to lots of big things, and I spread myself thin.
3. ‘Connectedness’ is one of my biggest values, yet I’m most comfortable not connecting (from conditioning). Yay for paradox.
4. Only when you give yourself time to be yourself, can you really move about the world in affect.
5. Live with intention. Know what I am doing is contributing to, even if that is relaxation. If I don’t know what what I am doing is contributing to, stop and do something else, where I do know.
6. “You (I) am already what you (I) am searching for” Guy Sengstock.
7. The universe will provide. You just have to jump of the cliff.
Peace and Love. 
So I had a bit of an epiphany the other day. One of my goals for the year is to learn about NLP, if you haven’t seen it yet you can find the full list of goals here at simonlawry.com. They were talking about motivation, and there are typical two types of motivation. They are toward motivation and away from motivation. Toward motivation is where you move towards something because you want that on the things that it will bring. For example, starting your own business so you can be more flexible with your time. Or saving mountain gorillas. etc. Away from motivation is fear based. It is ‘I’m gonna work really hard at this now cos the consequences of me not doing are scary as hell’. It is plodding along and only sitting up and putting in the hard yards when you actually have to do something. Not working hard at something because you want to do it.
They say that neither of them is better than the other, pretty much. Both are very useful and especially if you know how to use your typical motivation style well. I’ve realised that I have been using an away from motivation for pretty much my whole life. And apparently that’s cool. Except, I don’t think it is, and let me explain why.
I think that my away from motivation is generally a bad thing because I have never really known what I want. I think the only time I actually knew what I wanted to do was when I decided to go to on exchange. I didn’t really mind where, although I had my criteria. I knew I wanted to go, and I worked my arse of for about 18 months so that I could actually go. Since then though, I haven’t ever really done anything that I REALLY wanted to do. I went through the motions. And I went through the motions well. I got my undergrad degree, with first degree honours. I’m doing my PhD now, and I chose to do it because nothing else had really presented itself, and it was the best of what was available. As Guy Sengstock says, I got lost into the content of my life. I got caught in the grind. I wasn’t aware that there was another way. I wasn’t aware that there are a million other way. I didn’t know that my life is not dictated by the things that happen around me. I didn’t know that I create my own life every day.
While I wanted to do these things, there was something missing. The way that it is referred to among some of the people that I hang with is as ‘The burn’. I had the burn to go on exchange. It was something that I would have done what ever it took to do it. I had the burn, the fire in the belly. But it is something that has been lacking since. I’ve only felt the burn since I have begun to actually to work on myself, and to grow.
My journey, over the next year, is to really find what my new passion is. To rekindle the fire in the belly. To get that burn back. I have some idea’s about what it is, and I am taking some pretty radical steps, and making some big commitments to the direction I feel I want to move in. I want to equip myself so I can finish my Phd, and go and chase my dream. The journey is gaining absolute clarity on what that dream is.
